Entries for September, 2017

I’ve never really thought about that saying before, tonight though, this concept came to my mind. But I think this saying is only applicable to friends who you interact with constantly. You know, the people who knew what you ate for breakfast and what time you sleep at night, not the friends you have lost touch with and you occasionally greet happy birthday to when that day comes.

A friend, of some time ago, once told me about micro-evolution. So, after the flood, we all just came from Noah, right? But why are there various skin shades? The friend mentioned micro-evolution, which explains that we adapt based on our surroundings. So those people who got scattered to some tropical latitudes developed darker skin. Ok so I don’t know the specifics, so please don’t kill me.

Anyway, so perhaps, friendship is something like that. You have this childhood friend who you never parted with. They were your neighbors, you went to school together, you ate lunch together, you came home from school together, you played games together, basically what you might call a sibling from another set of parents. But then, in high school, you went to a different school. Each of you made other friends. You didn’t see each other as often. You couldn’t play games together anymore as your schedules didn’t match.

You miss them terribly. Then finally, you found time to talk. You were excited to tell all sorts of stories. But then, you realized, you couldn’t talk the same way to this friend anymore. Something's different. They couldn’t understand you the way they did before. And you couldn't understand where they were coming from. It’s because, yes, each of you adapted to the environment you became absorbed in.

But it didn’t just happen with your childhood friend, same thing happened with your high school friends, college friends, friends in your early twenties, friends in your late twenties, friends in your previous job, friends in your previous house, and other friends who you’ve lost touch with.

You’ve adapted. They’ve adapted.

You've changed. They've changed.

You've both grown, but apart.

It’s neither right nor wrong. I guess that’s just how things are. Perhaps, if you and your friend who you’ve lost touch with work on communicating again, the same level of understanding might come back. Or maybe, you’re just really meant to be a part of each other’s lives during that chapter of your existence.

To the individual friends who became very dear to me in various stages of my life, we may not talk often, but know that nostalgia invades me whenever I am reminded of each of you. We may have grown apart, but the effect you created in my heart will remain.

Posted by CarizzCruzem on September 30, 2017 at 08:18 PM | fly with me
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